The Co-Dependency Syndrome
One of satan's Most Common Snares
PURPOSE
The purpose of this document is to continue to illustrate to the
Faithful the depth and breadth of the snares satan has set up for
humanity. Our prayer is that the Faithful become more vigilant and less
paranoid, more prayerful and less dependent on humans, thus, more
dependent on God. When the potential victim understands better how the
aggressor functions, defense becomes far easier and less traumatic.
INTRODUCTION
Paraphrasing what we wrote on November 13, 2006, in our Points to
Ponder (1)
section:
The ultimate Joy is doing the
Will of God (2),
that is, "taking the horse to water", so to speak.
Whether "the horse" drinks or not should not affect us as long we did
all that was reasonably
possible to encourage "the horse" to drink the water. If we allow "the
horse" chosen option to affect us, then we are sliding into
co-dependency; that is, our joy depends on another being and not solely
in doing the Will of God.
The only co-dependency that is healthy - ideal - should be our
relationship with God.
Now, we will fully explain how satan uses co-dependency to enslave both individuals engaged in
such dysfunctional relationship (3)
- even beyond the grave.
Thousands of liters of ink have flowed as men have made co-dependency a
favorite subject for the Self-Help set. It sells - it really sells....
books and tranquilizers!
The question is: Do the innocent Faithful really understand the
spiritual dimension of co-dependency?
Unless that spiritual dimension is fully understood, satan will
continue to have a field day using one of his most favorite tools to
ensnare, enslave and make humans quite miserable.
DETAILS
How to get in
In a nutshell: Co-dependency is a symbiotic relationship wherein one
party subconsciously justifies its existence - its worth - by making
another party, for all practical purposes, subconsciously totally
dependent on them. While that void within the self loathing individual
who longs "to feel needed" is being filled, the target becomes an
almost neutralized individual, every day becoming more and more
dependent on the "master" - the one who supplies all its false
emotional and real physical needs.
Naturally, as the "slave" becomes more and more dependent on the
"master", he/she becomes less and less dependent in God for the
"Master", in essence, the "master" has taken the place of God.
Sounds familiar, doesn't it? Who is the one who is always trying to
take the place of God? satan! Now you should be able to understand what
kind of spirit is driving the "master" (4) , thus the
destructiveness
of such relationship.
Before going any further understand that: It is a human trait to desire
to be wanted and appreciated - a trait inherited from God, Who created
us in His Image. It is also a human trait to express our gratitude to
those who may assist us from time to time; however, when such traits
are commandeered by satan and twisted to suit his purpose, the
suffering can be immense.
It is amazing to see a
"real man" - that is - a man who fulfills his created for purpose of:
father, husband, provider and protector turned into an emotional and
spiritual eunuch at the hands of a "master" spouse.
It is amazing to see a
whole culture, a culture wherein it appears that men have the upper
hand, when, in reality, they have become no more than walking
spermatozoan farms.
It is amazing to see
brilliant women reduced to bumbling idiots when, somehow, they were
convinced that the Sun, not the Earth but the Sun, orbits around her
male "master".
It is amazing to see
the wife and children of an alcoholic be totally "enslaved" to the
"master" who has made them believe that it is their fault that he
turned to alcohol.
How can that possibly happen? Quite simply!
satan wounds a soul - usually in its youth. Said soul becomes very
insecure and self loathing and starts developing an uncanny sensitivity
to determine what pleases his/her tormentor in an effort to appease
him/her. From this effort, this individual - the future "master" -
develops a brilliant manipulation technique that is practiced on all
others around him/her; a technique that is practically unnoticed
because it is enveloped in a servitude/submission sheath.
Little by little, that budding "master" engulfs those around him/her so
that by manipulating them, they become co-dependent so that the
"master" feels somewhat secure - a security that was stripped away when
his/her soul was wounded in its youth. Of course, satan is now at the
driver's seat of the budding "master" because in this manner he can
harm, or at least try to harm, all those who come in contact with the
"master" who by now has become, using medieval imagery, a spiritual
vampire.
It is a Law of the spiritual domain that the more dependent we become
of anything in the physical world - whether another individual or money
- the less dependent we become of God. The less dependent we become of
God, the further away we drift from Him and the more we will suffer in
Time if said soul is destined for Heaven. (5)
Once the victim, the "slave", is under total control of the "master",
he/she is kept there through guilt no matter how hard he/she may fight.
What is truly brutal about this is that such control can be maintained
even beyond death.
Being that satan is the puppeteer in this very sad and sinister "show",
the "master" may even commit suicide in "desperation"; an action which
will further "enslave" the victim, now fuly submerged in guilt, a guilt
fueld by the memory of the deceased "master".
You may ask: What is the purpose of
further enslaving the soul which was left in the world; after all, the
"master" is already gone and cannot benefit from such enslavement?
The answer is also quite simple: In the ultimate analysis, both the
"master" and the "slave" are victims; victims of the puppeteer who is
satan. He just drove someone to despair and to suicide and now he will
continue to make the life of the one left miserable through
overwhelming guilt.
How to get out
The moment one detects that such interaction is developing, stop it!
Such technique has been the favorite one of satan to try to derail and
control miguel de Portugal. (6)
Through the Grace of God, and the faith
that only He can grant, satan's best laid plans can be blocked.
Many years ago, at two different times, miguel refused the continued
assistance of the only
benefactor of that particular time - with nothing to fall back on
except God (7) - when the
benefactor tried to use the assistance to manipulate the work God had
called m de P to do.
In less extreme conditions, other benefactors have been turned away or
cut off after their intentions (not known to them) became evident to m
de P.
How to detect them
The "master" on the prowl can easily be detected just as one would
detect an invisible but concrete man - by his footprints!
The "master" is totally blind to his/her dysfunction and the "slave"
feels comfortable being totally dependent on said "master", even
though, once in a while, he/she feels entrapped, yet psychologically
unable to break the dysfunctional bond.
Textbook cases
The method (the "footprint" of the "master's" behavior) is always the
same and the relationship can be identified by observing the reaction
of the "master" if he/she thinks that he/she is about to lose control
of the "slave". One must remember - that the "slave", in the
dysfunctional mind of the "master", is the only reason for living; the
only (psychotic) balm that will make the "master" feel that he/she is
worth something.
The moment the "master" senses that the "slave" is becoming independent
as a result of, for example, establishing a sound and truly liberating
relationship with God, the "master" turns against the one whom he/she
deems responsible for the possible liberation of the "slave". The
method used is to start turning the "slave" against the individual who
is deemed responsible for such liberation - that is indeed the most
effective and, of course, most destructive.
We have lived it at very close range - in our ministerial life as well
as in the family life. It is so sad to see these individuals, "masters"
and "slaves" alike, being manipulated by satan in such a predictable
manner. One who is not of God and could see what we see, could "play
them like a Symphonic Orchestra" and "milk them for all they are worth"
for they could see every one of their "buttons" and exactly how they
will respond as each one is "pushed".
Now, imagine, satan, with an even clearer view of his victim "buttons",
and being the No. 1 enemy of God, can literally destroy lives,
families, marriages and careers; thanks be to God, he cannot destroy a
soul destined for Heaven.
CONCLUSION
The only answer to this most widespread problem is, as it always is,
first, prayer; and second, not to become part of such dysfunctional
tango - for, as the saying goes: "It takes two to tango."
NOTES
(1) Relevant
Points to Ponder Page
(2) Discerning the Will of God
(3) About
Dysfunctional
Relationships
(4) Effect
of Spiritual Entities on
Human Behavior
(5) About
Eternal Destination
(6) Who is
miguel de Portugal?
(7) miguel depended entirely on
God to move someone to help him financially when needed, without miguel
asking anyone directly, only asking God.
En Español: El Síndrome de Codependencia - Una de
las trampas más utilizadas por satanás
Published on May 27th, 2007 -
Pentecost Sunday
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